Breast Cancer-Impacted Clients Share Their Stories

The Family Center’s Legal Wellness Institute works with breast cancer patients, survivors and affected families all year long. But we wanted to take a moment at the close of this Breast Cancer Awareness Month to highlight our legal work with women and families coping with the illness through our Maite Aquino Program and Judge Judith Kaye Project. These programs are made possible thanks to the generous support of the Judges and Lawyers Breast Cancer Alert (JALBCA). Here’s what three of our clients had to say about the impact of our services: 

[The Family Center’s] Maite Aquino Program has provided me with legal representation in Bronx Housing Court. My attorney has met me at my doctor’s office.  She even appeared on my behalf in Court only days before the system shut down due to COVID… While I would not wish my breast cancer and housing nightmare on anyone, I do wish more of the world knew about the impact of The Maite Aquino Program.  Because of JALBCA and Maite Aquino’s legacy, my family and I had a safe home during the COVID pandemic.  I am grateful to have remained COVID-negative – something that might have been impossible in the shelter system.” – Patrice, Breast Cancer Patient

My life was literally devastated by breast cancer. About two months after my surgery I called The Family Center. They were able to provide me with an attorney through the Judge Judith Kaye Project…. My attorney Lauren saved me in so many ways… Lauren was more than just an attorney… She was also able to refer me for at-home counseling [through The Family Center] and my counselor Sabina came to see me weekly. She helped me at my weakest and lowest points….  I have been through 9 surgeries in the past 3 years. Because of The Family Center I had support every step of the way. I’m still healing. I’m back at work. I graduated culinary school this June. Every day I’m thankful. My journey to health has been a long, hard, challenging experience. My mom says ‘Daughter, no matter what, you be the soldier on the battlefield.’ I’m here today to tell you that I have evolved into a warrior.  – Bertina, Breast Cancer Survivor

[My daughter] at the age of 29 was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer. Prior to her passing away, we were introduced to The Family Center. There’s so much that they have done for me that I could not have done on my own, as far as legal papers, going to the courts, getting legal guardianship [of my granddaughters], they found a support group for the kids and myself for bereavement. This is a good thing. This is really an excellent organization. – Melva, Mother and Grandmother


Behind Every Phone Call: TFC’s Extraordinary Work in Extraordinary Times

Serving clients at TFC has grown only more complex in these challenging times. It was Friday at 2:30 , after a long week when a worker in our TPLW program made a routine check-in call to a client, as we have since the pandemic began. The worker, Douglass Moss, learned that the client in East New York had run out of his vital HIV medications a week ago.  He had gone to his usual clinic, a well-known community facility, but found it gated and boarded up “with some signs about COVID.”  He had tried to call reception, then his own doctor, but none answered. When we called that Friday afternoon, he had already missed seven days of a vital medication he takes daily. Douglass offered TFC’s own pharmacy service, the client said yes, and our team swung into action. 

One worker coordinated with the pharmacy, who agreed to order and fill the prescription that day as soon as they received a prescription. Another sought out a new HIV doctor to write the prescription. For an hour, two team members called several doctors, but none would prescribe without seeing the client and awaiting blood tests. Switching strategies, the team located an urgent care near the client, that was also in the same network as his prior clinic, so they might have access to his past records. Success! By 4:30, they agreed to write the prescription – if the client came in to be seen. 

But the immunocompromised client feared going out due to COVID.  So, our team dispatched a TFC driver, who had COVID two months ago, and is now recovered.  At 5:00, he picked up the client at his residence, both masked, and drove him the 20 minutes to urgent care. Each step was complicated because the client‘s cell phone wasn’t working, so we had to relay messages through the driver’s phone and calls to the urgent care staff.  Then bad news came from the pharmacy:  they would close early, at 6:00, due to mounting demonstrations in Bed Stuy. That left 45 minutes. We called the urgent care back, asking the client to call from the office phone the minute their doctor filed the prescription. At 5:50 the pharmacist got it and we headed over, but heavy traffic now blocking the area made it impossible to reach the pharmacy by 6:00. Another call, and they agreed to leave the meds secured with the cleaning staff, providing 15 extra minutes. At 6:11 a TFC worker pulled up, ran out, scooped up $3,800 worth of lifesaving meds and the car rolled out on what we thought was the final lap. 

Again, staff called urgent care to inform the client that a car was coming with the meds, to stay put, and we would get there as soon as traffic allowed. But due to increasing traffic and police blockades, the ride from Bed Stuy to East New York took an hour. On the way, we coordinated the same driver to meet him at urgent care, and bring him home safe with his valuable meds. At 7:20, the neighborhood roiling around us, we pulled up at the urgent care in East New York with our lifesaving cargo in one car and his driver in the other.  

But the client was gone. He had left 10 minutes before, either impatient or confused. Urgent care staff had no idea where he was. We had no way to reach him.  Calls to his housing facility went unanswered. In exactly five hours since his call, a team of two TFC workers, a pharmacist, two doctors, the urgent care staff and two drivers had worked in synchrony to deliver lifesaving meds. Yes, we had found him a new doctor and vital meds, mobilized care and deliveries, but we weren’t done. As night fell, we texted him to reassure him we had his meds. Saturday dawned, his phone charged, and that morning our worker met the client to hand him his pill bottles. It took a team and most of a day, but this client now he has a new doctor and a stable supply of his lifesaving medications.  And it all began with that phone call. 

-Dave Nimmons
HIV Treatment Education Manager & Founding Board Chair


How A Zipcar Partnership Helps New Yorkers

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Max with a Zipcar that helped him more efficiently and effectively serve The Family Center’s clients throughout all NYC’s five boroughs.

A few months ago The Family Center received a call about a woman who had recently suffered from a stroke and was temporarily severely handicapped in her ability to communicate, remember, and travel. She was receiving care at home and her mother was taking care of most of her affairs on her behalf. The client lives in an apartment in a remote area section of Staten Island inaccessible by train or ferry.  Luckily, thanks to Zipcar, a Family Center Legal Wellness Institute (LWI) paralegal and staff attorney were able to drive out to the client’s home to help her execute a Power of Attorney to allow her mother to handle her legal and financial affairs more easily.  On our visit, though, we recognized that the client had several other legal issues for which she needed the help of an attorney. Most importantly, was a family law issue involving her young children. We immediately began gathering the information we needed for a petition in Family Court, which is now pending. We continue to drive out to the client for meetings in her home as needed, to obtain documents and have client sign and review court filings. Because we were able to meet the client and sit down with her in person, we were able to gain a more complete picture of the case and identify additional legal issues with which she needed assistance. Ultimately, by using Zipcar to drive out and meet with the client at her bedside, our LWI attorney and paralegal have been able to provide this client with extensive legal services even though she is home-bound in an inaccessible location.

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Max’s selfie with a Zipcar!

The Family Center LWI has also been working for close to six months with a client who is living with and fighting recurrent cancer. She is currently undergoing chemotherapy treatments. Unfortunately, through no fault of her own, she’s had some problems with her Medicaid coverage over the past few months, which have exacerbated the emotional stress associated with fighting cancer, in addition to threatening her access to lifesaving medical treatments.  The client, who lives in a remote part of Queens, is unable to take public transportation due to her illness and the debilitating effects of her treatment. Thanks to Zipcar, LWI attorneys have been able to go to her to obtain the documentation necessary to fix the issues with her medical coverage, making sure that she’s getting both the care she needs and the assurance that she doesn’t have to worry about the stress of travel in order to get legal help.

Without the help of Zipcar, it would be nearly impossible for us to reach clients like these to provide the legal services they need to maintain their health, their homes, and their families.

-Maxwell Fineman, Family Center Legal Services Coordinator


An Outing for Our New Youth Advisory Board

The Family Center recently launched a Youth Advisory Board to help us develop programming for NYC youth and identify emerging needs of youth in our community.

On February 16th, they went on a outing in Dumbo.  Enjoy the fun photos of our fabulous Family Center teens!


TFC is 25 This Year!!

Twenty-five years went by in a flash. So much has changed, and yet much remains the same. For example, The Family Center mission has changed, but the professional, compassionate, trauma-informed way that we work with client families has never changed -and never will change.

Take a look at our Then and Now list below.  What do you remember most from 25 years ago?

THEN NOW
TFC’s work answers a child’s question, “Who will take care of me?” TFC’s work keeps families stronger, longer.
The Lion King and Forrest Gump are released in theatres. Black Panther makes Academy Award history as the first superhero movie nominated for an Oscar.
TFC works predominantly with children and families impacted by HIV/AIDS. TFC works with New Yorkers and families affected by any illness, crisis, or loss.
Major League Baseball Players Association begins a strike causing the season to be canceled. Mariano Rivera becomes the first person unanimously nominated into the Baseball Hall of Fame.
TFC opens on Reade Street in lower Manhattan but serves families city-wide. TFC’s office is in Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn but we continue to serve New Yorkers throughout the city in numerous locations.
Amazon is founded. Amazon announces its plans to open HQ2 in Long Island City.
TFC provides predominantly social and legal services. TFC offers social, legal, and behavioral health services.
Sheryl Crow won best new artist at the Grammy’s. Kendrick Lamar wins a Pulitzer Prize for Music.
TFC is grounded in research that shows how many children will be orphaned by HIV/AIDS. TFC research demonstrates that our programs reduce maternal depression and improve the chances of mothers returning to work or school, among other positive metrics.

Thank you for following this blog and for supporting The Family Center on our 25-year journey.  We look forward to celebrating our 25th Anniversary with you throughout 2019!


Pro Bono Week Spotlight on Legal Intern Dahlia Romanow

DahliaIn honor of National Pro Bono Week, we’d like to introduce one of our fantastic legal volunteers.

Dahlia Romanow has been a legal intern in The Family Center’s Legal Wellness Institute (LWI) since May.

Dahlia is currently in her second year at NYU School of Law. Dahlia was a full-time legal intern over the summer and decided to volunteer with us again this fall part-time while she continues her studies.

Before moving to New York for law school, Dahlia received a bachelor’s degree in classics at Smith College. She then spent two years working as an AmeriCorps Legal Advocate at South Coastal Counties Legal Services Inc., a nonprofit legal service provider in the Fall River area of Massachusetts. In this position, Dahlia gained valuable experience, helping clients with issues relating to family law, consumer debt and bankruptcy, and housing court.

Dahlia has a strong commitment to pro bono legal assistance. At NYU, Dahlia also currently serves on the boards of two student groups: The Identity Documents Project, which helps trans and gender non-conforming New Yorkers update their federal and state legal documents to ensure they match their names and genders; and the HIV Law Society.

In her time volunteering with LWI, Dahlia has particularly enjoyed getting to apply the skills she’s learned in law school in a real-world setting – including drafting motions that have been filed in court (and won!). She also has also enjoyed getting to see cases through to successful completion, including a name change petition that she took the lead on, which was recently granted.

Dahlia was drawn to the Legal Wellness Institute’s holistic approach to direct legal services and has enjoyed working with clients and gaining experience in many areas of law.  Having lost her father unexpectedly at age 18, Dahlia also has a strong personal connection to The Family Center’s work.

Pro bono legal volunteers play a vital role in helping LWI serve more than a thousand vulnerable New Yorkers each year. The staff and clients of The Family Center’s Legal Wellness Institute thank Dahlia and all of our other pro bono volunteers for their time, energy, and talents.


A Special Reconnection

Recently, The Family Center received an email through our website from a former volunteer who mentored one of our children some time ago.  Dara’s note is heart-warming and at the same time, encourages our Board, staff, volunteers and supporters to persevere in our work to keep vulnerable families stronger, longer.  Her words also reveal that we don’t just strengthen families: we build communities.

Back in early 2000’s I became a mentor to Amanda. I was only her mentor for maybe 2 years. I don’t really remember why I stopped being her mentor. Anyway, 15+ years later, she found me on Facebook and messaged me. She emailed me the following:

“Hi Dara,
I don’t know if you remember me, but you use to be my mentor when you were apart of The Family Center back in the early 2000’s. I always wondered how you were and what you were up to? I also wanted to say thank you for everything you did for me back then, I truly appreciated everything you’ve done and I’m glad to see your doing well. Congratulations on you marriage (I know I’m off a several years sorry!) and your kids are sooooo adorable!!! I’m so happy for you! Also, please give a hug to Nikki for me, it’s funny I’m actually listening to “Test Drive” right now, it is such a good album! Why haven’t you guys put anything else out though? Anyway, much love and hugs to you both!!!  – Amanda”

We have emailed back and forth quite a bit since then. I love that she reached out to me. I honestly didn’t think I made that much of an impression on her!

I just wanted to email this to you as yet another story of how the Family Center helps the families who participate in your organization. I was so glad I got to be a part of it.

Thanks,
Dara

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Amanda and Dara in 2003

We are so grateful to Dara -and Amanda- for giving us permission to share this story with you, our blog readers.

Do you have a story about your Family Center experience?  If so, contact us!

At The Family Center, we delight in spreading news about the good work of volunteers and supporters like Dara.

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Amanda at a Family Center event


New Directors Join The Family Center Board

The Family Center is proud to announce that a new cohort of Directors has joined our Board.  See a photo of our dedicated new Directors below and read more about them on our website.

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From left to right: Maggie Jiang, Brian Pasalich, Helen Wanamaker, Rosie Hill, Adam Mintz and Vikram Shankar


The Family Center Attends JALBCA’s Symposium on Cancer and Capitalism

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From left to right: Vivienne Duncan, Director of the Cancer Advocacy and Elderlaw Projects at City Bar Justice Center; Caroline Bersak, Family Center Legal Wellness Institute Assistant Director; Luisa Kaye, Co-President of JALBCA, daughter of Judith Kaye, for whom The Family Center’s Judge Judith Kaye Project is named; and Ivy Gamble Cobb, The Family Center Executive Director

On Wednesday, March 28th, the Judges and Lawyers Breast Cancer Alert, also known as JALBCA, hosted The 22nd Annual Ellen P. Hermanson Memorial Symposium.  The Family Center is deeply grateful for the support that our breast cancer -affected clients and their families have received from JALBCA over the years, so we were delighted to attend this Syposium on “Cancer and Capitalism: Who Will Stand Guard in the Cancer Wars?”  In addition to the Symposium’s informative panel discussions, The Family Center enjoyed meeting Claire Gutekunst, JALBCA’s new Executive Director.

JALBCA funds both The Judge Judith Kaye Project and The Maite Aquino Program at The Family Center.  These programs address the impact of breast cancer and its treatment on vulnerable New Yorkers and their families, primarily community members of color who are living on incomes below the poverty line.  Since 2008, JALBCA has generously supported thousands of breast cancer -affected New Yorkers through The Judge Judith Kaye Project and The Maite Aquino Program.

The Family Center is proud of our partnership JALBCA!

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From left to right: Family Center Board member Marika Pritchett-Casey, Executive Director Ivy Gamble Cobb and Legal Wellness Institute Assistant Director Caroline Bersak

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From left to right: Family Center Board member Marika Pritchett-Casey, JALBCA Executive Director Claire Gutekunst, and Family Center Executive Director Ivy Gamble Cobb


SPARCS at TFC

For the past month, The Family Center has been conducting a group program called SPARCS for Structured Psychotherapy for Adolescents Responding to Chronic Stress.

SPARCS is a trauma-informed, evidence-based group intervention aimed to address the impact of chronic stress, which is defined as consistent exposure to high levels of stress and trauma. For this group, our facilitating clinicians recruited teens 13-16 years-old whose families were receiving services at The Family Center. SPARCS encourages mutual aid and support between participants who engage in activities like self-monitoring their stress levels, mindfulness exercises, problem-solving activities and more.

From their response to DACA’s current status to their outrage over gun violence in schools, youth in our society have a relevant, compelling voice. The Family Center believes that all youth should be heard and we are happy to give them a safe space to exercise their voices.